A pot of chilli
Sep. 26th, 2005 07:48 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rhionnachI've just made a pot of veggie chilli and it's simmering nicely on the cooker. I'll have it with some rice and some tortillas once I decide it's simmered for long enough. I've not made it in the same way as my partner makes it but then I doubt anyone could measure out the assorted chillies and powders the way he does! It has kidney beans, sweetcorn, tomatoes, green peppers, onions and garlic in it as well as the essential chillies.
I made a similar pot of chilli 11 years ago this very day. I hadn't realised the signifigance of today's date it until I was discussing with someone at work about it being a local holiday today.
11 years ago and I was on holiday. I thought I was going ice skating with my husband and the other employees of his small business. I made the chilli and sat down to wait for him. Hours went by and I began to realise he wasn't coming for me.(Was I thick or what?)
He had his own company. I was also one of the directors and helped out after finishing my day job by doing the (endless and tedious) invoicing and updating the database etc. I felt I was part of it but he had other ideas and only that morning he had told me very nastily that I was nothing to do with the company and I wasn't going on the company night out. (Even though it was "his" company that didn't stop him sinking all "our" savings into it, which we lost when it went down the pan a few years later - but that's another story.) I really didn't believe him that day but subsequent events made me begin to realise that things weren't going well.
This date marks the day when things began to change. The whole process took 4 more years before he finally left but I think that even before this date he had begun planning his departure. It also marks the date when a change in my career began to become neccessary. The job I used to do in social work is one in which you do not need stresses and strain in your own life when you deal with it in the lives of others. And you sure as hell don't need a psycho husband with a morbid fear of spaghetti and onions and anything that could vaguely be said to resemble a worm and who picks out the green peppers from the chilli and leaves them on the side of the plate!
I made a similar pot of chilli 11 years ago this very day. I hadn't realised the signifigance of today's date it until I was discussing with someone at work about it being a local holiday today.
11 years ago and I was on holiday. I thought I was going ice skating with my husband and the other employees of his small business. I made the chilli and sat down to wait for him. Hours went by and I began to realise he wasn't coming for me.(Was I thick or what?)
He had his own company. I was also one of the directors and helped out after finishing my day job by doing the (endless and tedious) invoicing and updating the database etc. I felt I was part of it but he had other ideas and only that morning he had told me very nastily that I was nothing to do with the company and I wasn't going on the company night out. (Even though it was "his" company that didn't stop him sinking all "our" savings into it, which we lost when it went down the pan a few years later - but that's another story.) I really didn't believe him that day but subsequent events made me begin to realise that things weren't going well.
This date marks the day when things began to change. The whole process took 4 more years before he finally left but I think that even before this date he had begun planning his departure. It also marks the date when a change in my career began to become neccessary. The job I used to do in social work is one in which you do not need stresses and strain in your own life when you deal with it in the lives of others. And you sure as hell don't need a psycho husband with a morbid fear of spaghetti and onions and anything that could vaguely be said to resemble a worm and who picks out the green peppers from the chilli and leaves them on the side of the plate!