A difficult time
Mar. 12th, 2010 10:44 pmAnything I say here will be too much and criticized by those who think they know better. But what am I supposed to do?
I found out last night that the person who (if all things had worked out as intended) would have been my father-in-law died last night. This naturally upsets me and I want to convey my condolences to his widow and to his son, who would have been my husband had things worked out. Given that the said husband-to-be-that-wasn't refuses to acknowledge my very existence makes for a very difficult time.
I am remembering all that we have shared over the years (with his parents) and their kindness when things went sour between me and my now ex-partner. Clearly, it's nothing compared to the actual loss of a parent or a partner but I am grieving and I don't know what to do.
My thoughts go to his mother. How do you cope with the loss of someone who was your life partner for over 50 years? I cannot begin to imagine that sort of loss.

I found out last night that the person who (if all things had worked out as intended) would have been my father-in-law died last night. This naturally upsets me and I want to convey my condolences to his widow and to his son, who would have been my husband had things worked out. Given that the said husband-to-be-that-wasn't refuses to acknowledge my very existence makes for a very difficult time.
I am remembering all that we have shared over the years (with his parents) and their kindness when things went sour between me and my now ex-partner. Clearly, it's nothing compared to the actual loss of a parent or a partner but I am grieving and I don't know what to do.
My thoughts go to his mother. How do you cope with the loss of someone who was your life partner for over 50 years? I cannot begin to imagine that sort of loss.
